You may have heard that phrase spoken to you, in an effort by someone to calm you down. Meaning 'Have patience', implying you don't have it and you need it quickly. One of the most comical prayers people utter is “Give me patience!” what makes it comical is they mean it paradoxically. They want patience immediately. The irony is pretty clear, patience is involved with time.
Most of the time, what we really mean by asking for patience is, 'Help me to get through this moment without losing my temper.'
It is the right thing to ask, but not for the reasons many may think.
Words are funny, they take on shades of meaning over time because of the assumptions people make, from the context they are used in. Temper actually means “strength” in this case 'of character'. It is derived from the work of metallurgy, were the heating and then cooling of metals causes the molecules to be more consistent, or line up better, so the metal can have more efficient, closer bonds. The overall result is much stronger metal.
However, there is something to be said for some things being more flexible, as a type of strength as well, and this thought is also used in developing metals for specific uses, to prevent breakage. So, whether tough or flexible, strength depends upon the moments demands. The drift of thinking about the word temper, likely, went something like this; someone was losing their temper, observed by at least two individuals. One possibly commented, “Wow what a temper!” The other, being intimidated by the dominance, assumed this meant the quality of showing aggression. Today, this is usually referred to as 'having a temper', instead of as 'losing a good one', the actual loss of strength, not the possessing of it. When we ask for patience today, we are most often asking for our strength to not break, or not letting go of a quality of restraint inside ones character. But many times the strength needed is one of flexibility, so as to see things from a different viewpoint, a more truer, bigger picture, in an overall-context-of-others-as-well perspective.
So, you may think I'm going off topic here, but I assure you I'm not; so stick with me.
Many might remember the story where the 'King had no clothes'. A con-artist had convinced the King he had material which: revealed if the heart of the observer was of royal heritage, because they could see it; was of superior quality to anything else in the world, so it was only good enough for him of course; when anyone could not see the cloth, they would be exposed as clearly not of royal blood, thus giving the King the power of discernment for potential appointments to his council. The presumption being that anyone of royal blood was clearly more intelligent than a commoner.
He made a public announcement about the new royal outfit being made for him and wanted to parade himself in public to show it off. Once the con-artist “delivered” the clothing the king was now stuck. Not being able to see the cloth himself the king decided to fake it, and pretended he could see it, so as to ensure his royal standing. In his pride he lost his dignity, walking in front of all, naked as a jaybird.
The problem is similar to that of im-patience. Pride, a close cousin, is contagious, and those who experience frequent exposure to the outbursts of others are more likely to act in the same manner. If not for any other reasons but, it is now thought of as socially acceptable, or, as a viable option. It has been proven that poor behaviour rubs off, it's called negative peer pressure. A common Biblical tenet is “Bad company corrupts good character.”
Here's where it starts to come together; see, patience is it's own reward.
In this story, the crowds of people began to comment on the beauty of the cloth, the quality of the workmanship, and how resplendent the King looked in his new outfit. Pride; and the other side of it's coin, fear, worked to embarrass and diminish the dignity of everyone. Everybody acted as if they could see the cloth as well. This was not tolerance, it was not compassion, it was compromise of truth and character in every heart, to preserve themselves. We are such poor souls at times, but we need not be!
It was only as a small child was honest, not yet being taught the error of going under the expectations of others, moved with empathy and compassion for the kings situation that he spoke up. At first the crowd tried to stifle him, but he persisted in his efforts to save the king from himself, he overcame the voices who sought to drown him out.
This is a beautiful story about, knowing what's right, enduring pressure, and maintaining self control, not for the sake of ones self but for concern for another and the condition of society. A child's wisdom; wow! Sometimes it could lead us all.
I guess you could say, Patience is the purity of a 'little child', it leads all of our other characteristics forward, to life protecting qualities. It is the beginning of: Peace (On earth; which starts in each heart). Patience is the quelling of the irrational impulses; on a large scale, of politicians who would use fear to manipulate others for their will, it certainly was in Christ's day, considering when he was born. We've seen it's victory happen in recent provincial elections. Patients quells in the same way on a small scale. When we are readying to throw an adult temper tantrum, let's marshal the insides, ask God for patience and learn to grow, it will defeat our desires for dominance and entitlement and provide options. Huh, no more outbursts wounding others. Patience goes beyond mere tolerance to the strength of Love and Understanding.
So this Christmas season, maybe each of us could try to use a little more patience with others, and in lines, in traffic, with family, and those serving in restaurants and stores, this is how it's strength grows, through usage over time. You may not get it all now, but when you ask for patience, you will get opportunities to grow in it's wonderful qualities.
Ottawa, ON – John Barlow, Shadow Minister for Employment, Workforce Development and Labour, Ted Falk, Deputy Shadow Minister for Employment, Workforce Development, and Labour, and Garnett Genuis, Deputy Shadow Minister for Foreign Affairs, issued a statement following the Trudeau government’s decision to suspend their attestation requirement for the Canada Summer Jobs Program:
“Yesterday, after backlash from Canadians across the country, and pressure from the Conservative Opposition, the Trudeau government announced that they would be suspending their attestation requirement for the Canada Summer Jobs Program.
“As a result of the Liberals values test, more than 1,500 Canada Summer Jobs applications were rejected in 2018, up from 126 rejections in 2017. Hundreds of other organizations withdrew their applications or did not apply at all, due to their inability to sign the attestation.
“Justin Trudeau’s values test has no place in a tolerant, multicultural society such as Canada. Organizations should not have to agree with the ideological positions of the Liberal Party, to get government funding.
“The withdrawal of the Liberals’ attestation is an admission they were wrong, and a desperate attempt at damage control for the Prime Minister, heading into an election year. Unfortunately, Justin Trudeau cannot be trusted to back away from basing funding decisions on whether or not you hold a certain belief.
“Andrew Scheer’s Conservatives will remain vigilant, and consult with the charitable sector to ascertain the impacts of these changes, while continuing to hold the Prime Minister to account, when it comes to the Liberal values test. Justin Trudeau must immediately apologize for targeting the personal beliefs of individuals who run organizations that provide much needed services to Canadians, and commit to fully and permanently revoking this values test.”
John Barlow, MP
Ted Falk, MP
Garnett Genuis, MP
GREAT CHRISTMAS TABLE TALK
I feel it’s my duty to make all the great citizens of this beautiful area aware about a major change that’s been happening without real transparency.
THOUSANDS of acres of our prime agriculture land and critical eco systems are being taken over by ONE Corporate mega farmer. This seems to only being made possible, due to allowing the severance of the house on each property leaving a homeless farm. Within one year or less this Corporation has more than half of their $money $ returned with the sale, making it an incredible one year investment if you have the money to bankroll it (Most could not which makes it very unfair).
Personally I find it sickening, to think within five more years, THOUSANDS of acres could be gone and not available to any of our children or citizens for the future production of fruits and vegetables needed to feed our population or being able to enjoy this great lifestyle of full or part time farming unless they rent it from this big farm corporation The chemical damage and conservation infractions to this land will leave over time some say unusable acreage for edible human food production and a lake and river system with challenges for wildlife and fish stock.
If you feel this way, and think as a minimum measure, to slow this process down a, Single Severance Rule, per year should be the law of our land, please send the new SCUGOG council and DURHAM REGION, through their representatives, your feelings and demand the province changes their policy “Amendment #172 DROP section 17 (23) PA. My gut says this is only fair to one class of farmer or resident.
I did personally appeal this amendment and got valid standing but had to abandon it, because of the changes by the liberal government to this policy making it unaffordable to be heard unless with lawyers and planners being the only ones that will be recognized “The Rich One is getting richer by this amendment securing cheap pristine pastures that were once diverse family farms into corn and soybean factories and undermining our unique and vibrant farmers way of life”
If you read Durham’s Vision to Action or Growth Plan (012-3256)2015 P-37 our file L00 and all levels of governments new climate change reports you soon realize these severances go directly against what’s right and what they are trying to create for a safe sustainable future in Scugog. We must act to stop and try to reverse this damage if possible. I’m just one person in this incredible area and thought for history I want it recorded on which side I sat. You can be recognized by speaking up and talking about it.
Go online to scugog.ca/survey to have your say.
David Malcolm, Scugog Resident
The Honourable Andrew Scheer, Leader of Canada’s Conservatives and the Official Opposition, issued a statement, following the release of the Parliamentary Budget Officer’s report on the cost of illegal border crossings to Canadian taxpayers:
“Today’s report, from the Parliamentary Budget Officer, sheds new light on the crisis situation at Canada’s border with the United States that has seen 38,000 people enter Canada illegally since 2017.
“Justin Trudeau’s failure, to address the crisis he has created, has real consequences for Canadians and this report brings those consequences into sharp focus.
“In addition to the social and human costs of lengthy delays in the system and ongoing uncertainty for legal asylum seekers, we now know the financial cost to taxpayers.
“The PBO’s numbers show that the cost of accommodating one illegal border crosser is more than the gross annual income of a Canadian minimum wage worker. And by March 2020, if Justin Trudeau continues to do nothing to address this crisis, it will cost Canadians at least $1.1 billion, not including the hundreds of millions in extra costs to the provinces.
“That’s $1.1 billion of unbudgeted money that won’t be spent on the priorities of Canadians. Again, this is a failure that has real and direct consequences for Canadians.”
“In the coming days, Conservatives will write to the Auditor General, to request an investigation into the Trudeau government’s mismanagement of the illegal border crossing crisis.
“His failure to secure our borders has consequences for Canadians, both in terms of security and cost, and they deserve to know the total impact of that failure.”
Hi there, my name is Christine Craig, I am a local resident interested in water conservation and education for future generations.
I currently work as a water and wastewater treatment plant operator/mechanic, with Ontario Clean Water Agency (OCWA). I have taken part in the OneWater program, OCWA offers to schools, which teaches grade eight students about water and wastewater treatment processes, giving students a perspective on the importance of conserving/protecting our water for future generations. I more recently joined Waterlution, as a volunteer Youth Advisor, on the Great Canoe Journey project.
Waterlution is a non-profit organization, who annually trains and supports a nation-wide Youth Advisory Board (YAB), comprised of young professionals and post-secondary students, who are passionate about water and education regarding it across Canada.
Myself and the other Youth Advisors worked hard over the summer, to develop the school resources, workshops, and timeline for the Great Canoe Journey Program. We were all able to attend a learning retreat in Squamish, BC, to come together, learn, and develop the program. The retreat was a great opportunity to connect with other YABs; as we are spread across Canada and usually interact over various medias.
The Great Canoe Journey is a journey for Canadian youth to explore indigenous education techniques and culture, through the lens of traditional canoes and water. The other youth advisors and myself are working directly with school teams, to help students, and teachers, incorporate indigenous education into their curriculum.
Along with developing and launching the program, myself and other Youth Advisor volunteers have been working hard on creating some exciting products, for a crowdfunding campaign, to support our education programs! The crowdfunding campaign has just begun. Youth Advisors are working to raise $5000 that can help cover the costs associated with delivering water workshops throughout Canada, and cover the cost of producing our book and calendar. Just in time for the holidays! These are great, local, sustainable products for the water lover on your list!
I took on the role of the calendar coordinator for the crowdfunding campaign. The culturally informative 2019 water calendar, with photos of water bodies from across Canada and the traditional territories these water bodies belong to, will teach you how to say "water" in a different Indigenous language, each month. Available in English and French, and printed on eco-friendly paper.
BC Youth Advisory Board have written a beautiful Children’s Book: which shares eight adventurous water stories, each features real water-bodies and facts; some stories are fictional, and some are inspired by the author's own experiences and adventures! The seven authors are volunteer members of Waterlution’s Youth Advisory Board.
Check out the crowdfunding campaign on Indiegogo.com, search “Adventures with Watersnake - A children's book” to find information on authors, myself and to contribute.
This season is filled with adjustments. Like the last minute winterizing of our homes, keeping the lane clear of snow, putting up the Christmas lights, setting up the tree (if you celebrate with one), and buying those well thought-out gifts for your loved ones, just to name a few.
When families get together, sometimes there are expectations of memorable moments, hoping, “This year, our family will get along better than ever, and we will build a memory that’s perfect, the one to cherish the rest of our lives.” Hokey mackerel, that’s a lot of pressure to put on a few gatherings!
The memories of loving moments now gone, of those who are no longer with us, who have passed from this life or moved on in it, can sometimes evoke feelings of heartache, in those left behind. Unrealized expectations, in family relationships, or progress in career or life, can leave one feeling like they are not measuring up. The losses and confusions of the past, can inject tension at family gatherings. Ironically, during this Season of Thanksgiving, people need all kinds of special consideration, but all too often this goes unaddressed, in lieu of tinsel and twinkle.
But what if a loved one, or two, or a whole family has had there fair share of let downs or losses? Be they family changes, losing job security, or health struggles. These can unleash significant strain on those directly effected, or on those close by.
Let’s take another look at what this holiday is supposed to be about. Christmas is a commemoration of an unlimited life: Christ’s; one with the capacity to change all strife, inwardly, to a better existence. God came to our world directly, to give the problems in this reality a checkmate.
Instead, many have taken this gift of life and laden it with the pursuit of the hyper perfect gift, experience, or image boost, yet He came to bring dignity to all who would receive it.
Christ laid aside His Divinity to come as a true human being, removing the oppression of class distinction. He was born to a quaint Jewish couple, who, at the time were without lodging. His first breath was filled with the pungent ammonia of barnyard manure. Let’s say, he could relate to the homeless.
He respected civil and religious law, yet enables those who trust in Him to go beyond both, to the motivation they intended to express. Love for ones’ fellow human beings, even to the point of protecting them from themselves, ultimately flows from a true relationship with our Loving God.
We could go on and on, to things like anti-ageism, protection of children, healthcare, women’s liberation and gender equality, with respect for family relationships and their vital roles; dignity for the value of every life and it’s healthy function.
So many search, within the busyness of the season, for the things that will make up for all the neglect they engender throughout the year. Ironically, this time could be used to lay aside wounds and grudges, to let go of guilt and “told-you-so’s”, and the intolerance of weakness, to give everyone a break. This is an opportunity to spend real time together; no rush, no agenda, no schedule or pressure, just grace upon grace.
This season, before we gather with family and friends, let’s prepare our hearts to spend time, infused with genuine warmth not just clock watching, or toe tapping tolerance, lets be ready to offer listening ears, words of trust and hope, helping hands, gentle, appropriate touch, and real consideration of another’s condition or circumstances. Maybe, be the kindness we needed someone to be to us, even if that never happened; let’s spread it around!
And when you’re out there, and see someone in the cold, offer them a sandwich, a warm cup of tea, some conversation, and maybe give them a ride to a safe place to stay. What’s in it for you? The rewards are not the issue, but the gift is way more than you think you’re offering, to a life that needs.
Grace. Happy Seasoning.
“Today, we were pleased to welcome Premier Doug Ford as keynote speaker at OREA’s Ontario Realtor Party Conference. While speaking to over 400 real estate industry professionals, Premier Ford promised to continue to work to remove the barriers to home ownership, and re-iterated that the government is ready to do their part to help Ontarians find an affordable place to call home.
We look forward to being a key advisor as the Ford Government finalizes the Housing Supply Action Plan to provide solutions to make home ownership more affordable for Ontario families.
Realtors from across the province are in Toronto today, meeting with the provincial government and pushing for legislative changes that will improve the home buying and selling experience for Ontarians. We want Ontarians to feel safe and confident when making the biggest investment of their lives.
We want home buyers and sellers to know, that when they choose to work with an Ontario Realtor on the most important purchase of their lives, that they are working with the best.
Earlier this year, we produced a report that includes 37 recommendations for raising professional standards. And now, today and tomorrow, we’re meeting face-to-face with MPPs to continue the conversation and advocate for these important changes, which benefit consumers across the province, in order to ensure they are enshrined in legislation.”
Tim Hudak, CEO for the Ontario Real Estate Association
I have noticed a trend in greater public sector bargaining that distorts the collective bargaining process.
Knowing that eventually the government will enact back-to-work legislation, the employer can simply stonewall and push the union into a strike, then blame the union for the disruption. The government can then step in, and, wringing their hands for good show, "reluctantly" impose terms favourable to the employer. It's a cynical disregard for workers and Charter rights.
Louis Bertrand, Blackstock ON
It's been a really wet week, and although some things may go better when the roads are dry, it certainly could be worse.
The “Season of Thanksgiving”, which starts in late September early October, comprises of Armistice/Remembrance Day and Thanksgiving Day, counting our blessings for a good harvest.
But it continues, and some, who are 'plan ahead people' may include Black Friday sales as a relief to the costs and pressure of upcoming Christmas buys, and if taken slowly, spacing purchases out may ease the money stress; huh, wise people, they can enjoy the experience as a more reflective one, considering the ones they are giving to, instead of being drawn into the financial clamour and frenzy so many experience.
And, oh yes, Christmas season itself, if taken on it's actual merit, as a Celebration of a Giving Life, is unendingly wonderful, then we have, on through to New Years and the spring to come. When looked at in the right light, what a wonderful onslaught of reasons to be thankful.
I've been watching my neighbours lately and I want to thank God for the generous heart they share, returning dogs, who have breached the yard boundaries, to their neighbours, many times with a smile and conversations ending in thanks and warm “see ya laters”, others taking in the blue bins and garbage cans for those who are at work, once the hard working collectors come and gather their contents. Others who pick up escaped debris from those same bins without complaint. There are those who, like when the snow hit earlier this month, help to clear the laneways of those who can no longer do it easily themselves or mostly without remuneration. For money or not, it's an exchange of grace and favour, like when they similarly help with their lawns in the summer. Occasionally this selflessness spills over through others helping a neighbour to re-shingle their leaky roof. That's no small task and yet it's often done for lunches, some cold ice tea, or whatever the preference.
I know many won't acknowledge or even recognize the gentle nudge of God, prompting them to act in this manner, and others would try to chalk it up to some over inflated ego stroke to give credit to those who made the effort, in hopes to vicariously participate for being a human being, but I believe this is a betrayal of those who are moved to respond to need in the lives of others. When asked, almost all would say it was no big deal, or even be uncomfortable for being asked about the reasons behind what motivates them.
The truth is selfless acts are not done as a score keeping measure, and giving public acknowledgement of them almost steals the pure glow one receives from a loving God for doing these things selflessly. The Bible says, “If you receive your reward from mankind, you lose your reward from God.” And well, I'd much rather experience a “Well done” contribution to my life, from the Almighty source of Life, then a temporary pat on the back from those around. I recognize, God's affirmation sometimes comes through other people, mostly privately, intimately, and genuinely. Sometimes anonymous, usually no pomp, or ceremony, just genuine gratefulness of heart. Often left unspoken. But those who are skilled in listening for these promptings to acts of kindness, can also see the change imparted to the life that's reached, and that is it's own reward.
For these hearts, for these souls, for the kindness that rules their lives, I am overwhelmed and very thankful. This motivates me to thank a Loving God and breathe up a prayer of protection for a life like this and all the lives that need their touch. If I ever miss this when it's happening, I know there are others who are moved the same way, and pray gratefully also, and in their prayers they ask God to give me eyes to see the Love expressed through others, so I can always be thankful.
In this season, at least from now, through Christmas, until New Years, there are plenty of people, moments, and opportunities, to live thankful in relation to. So let's choose to be a Blessing. Let's try that on for size and see if it doesn't transform your winter blahs into a stream of co-working with God, and warmth in the lives around.
On behalf of the Port Perry Legion Br. 419 we would like to thank the Standard Newspaper for your extensive, compassionate coverage and support of Remembrance week and the Poppy Campaign, and to the people of Scugog Township.
A Sincere Thank you,
Port Perry Legion
"We Will Remember Them"