The death of someone we love can unwillingly plunge us into grief, and the mind can often make it difficult for us to think clearly. But death is a natural part of life many of us avoid discussing. I know most people would rather talk about life than death. How many truly take the time to think and prepare for their departure from this life?
Christian's make peace with death and dying by looking death in the eye and saying, "We win. Jesus is risen!" Seeking God's help while in pain is an act of faith. Like everyone else, we still experience the pain, loss and sorrow. Let's face it, life is hard, but I trust in God's sovereignty, waiting for the day Jesus will return! Christians don't just mourn, but we trust in God for Him to end the pain. We know His plan: creation, fall, redemption and restoration. Why, you ask, am I writing about death, pain and loss? The simple fact is my family has decided to pre-plan Mother's funeral. (You may have read, just last month we celebrated her 88th birthday).
As a Christian, the sense and dread about death, can be handled with honesty, prayer and keeping anxieties given over to God. I believe, we all can prepare and educate ourselves, on how to plan a funeral or memorial service, it helps us to cope with grief and the loss following the death of a loved one. I read, pre-planning is a wise practice, being increasingly accepted and appreciated. I know many people who are hesitant to pre-plan a funeral because they don't want to think about dying any time soon. My Mother, just a few short years ago, told us of her wishes, yet, she did not want to pre-plan because she didn't want to think about her own death! Pre-planning tells everyone about your desires. Mother does not want a funeral service, so we opted for a private burial. We chose the least expensive casket and a beautiful urn for her ashes. Having made that decision, we took the next step . . . My sister asked me to write her obituary!
My husband and I are also discussing and writing out our personal obituaries. How will my daughters react to a decision he may make which they might not agree with? In many palliative care courses this task is often asked of the participants. I have written out two personal obituaries over the last twenty years, since working in Health Care, and have certainly found this an eye opening experience.
As a Personal Support Worker and a Restorative Care Aide, in Long Term Care, I have seen many individuals who have passed and the affect it has on their loved ones. Despite the gamut of emotions, grieving for a loved one, or friend, ultimately helps us cope and heal. While grief is a perfectly natural and necessary reaction to loss, each person will mourn in their own unique way and time frame. It is important to understand how stress, loss, and grief can take a toll on us physically, emotionally and spiritually. We must take care of our bodies, and spending time with others is important because the grieving of a friend, or loved one can be long and isolating. Therefore, it is crucial to accept support rather than grieve alone. Talking about grief is an essential part of healing.
I find it is a bit of a paradox, the longer we live, the more death will be part of our life experiences. Do you have a plan for how you may approach death and dying? Remember, you may think your loved ones already know what you want, the truth is, there is often a startling difference between what people say they want and what their family members think they want! Next time you are visiting with your family, enjoying a golf game together, or at that family barbecue; perhaps, that is the time to have this talk?
This brings to my mind: 2 Corinthians 4:7-10 “But we have this treasure in jars of clay, to show that this all-surpassing power belongs to God and not from us. We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed; always carrying in the body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be manifested in our body.”
The truth is, you can be stronger and more resilient than you may realize. People find it hard to deal with death, and sometimes even harder to deal with the people left behind. There is a lot to consider, but the funeral home can help families take care of the funeral proceedings a valuable help in this difficult time.
Everyone is wondering what the right thing to do is? But we are not left to our own in a time of need. We can follow the one who teaches us, for He is our light when trust is needed most. There are as many ways to celebrate life as their are stars in the sky.
Did you know there is over 100 different types of arthritis? I suffer from osteoarthritis. Arthritis causes pain, stiffness, and inflammation in the joints. The most common is (OA) osteoarthritis, and (RA) rheumatoid arthritis. It can also be called "degenerative joint disease" because it results from the deterioration of the cartilage in the joints.
Arthritis occurs when the protective cartilage between the bones wears down. It is especially common in knees, hips, hands, and spine. It can affect people of all ages, genders and ethnic backgrounds. I read several reports indicating arthritis is a chronic disease affecting over four million Canadians.
Many of my co-workers have arthritis as well: it's common if you are a (PSW) Personal Support Worker. The duties of a PSW are to assist individuals with activities of daily living, including bathing, grooming, toileting and so forth. We are constantly running, helping, and assisting with ambulation, movement and re-positioning. When necessary, lifting the partial or whole weight of another person, as that elderly individual may be struggling or working against you!
Anyone can experience arthritis pain due to a number of different factors. Arthritis pain, redness, swelling and stiffness can occur in your neck, shoulders, elbows, wrists, hands, knees, and ankles from repeated movements.
My arthritis can be traced to family history, (my mother has a severe case), and the general wear and tear over the years from my tennis days, baseball days, working as a PSW for the last 20 years, as well as excessive weight gain, has put added pressure on my joints. My diagnosis of OA, was confirmed by an X-ray, as it revealed where the cartilage has worn away and shows bone rubbing up against bone. An accurate arthritis diagnosis is the first step towards treatment and managing the symptoms.
It is a very painful condition and I deal with it through a combination and variety of different medical therapies. The following ideas are some of the steps to protect your joints, reduce discomfort, and improve mobility.
Depending on the condition of your joint, arthroscopy can result in mild to moderate improvement which may last for several months, this was successful for me in the beginning. I have taken anti-inflammatory painkillers, and have tried the following, supplements, massage therapy, acupuncture, yoga, using TENS therapy, (transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulation), and Synvisc one injections, but the most important factor is attempting to live a healthy lifestyle. I will admit some days are better than others.
Your doctor will be able to suggest the right course of action for your symptoms. Doctors say, to manage any arthritis it is important to use a number of methods: exercises such as stretching, strength training, eating a healthy well balanced diet, the proper amount of sleep, and restful meditation to reduce stress. Prayer helps as well.
I find it is important to purchase proper footwear. Using the proper equipment makes a difference between a healthy workout and an injury. I particularly found water aerobics, and the stationery bike extremely effective, as these exercises are low impact and help me manage pain on a day to day basis.
Living with chronic pain is no simple matter. Some days, I would love to stay in bed but being inactive can make my pain symptoms even worse. I had to accept my arthritis, adjust to a new viewpoint, and allow my husband to do the things I can no longer do. Living a healthy lifestyle can go a long way towards relieving pain and improving your quality of life.
I know diet alone cannot combat arthritis but it can manage inflammation while assisting with weight loss, and produce more energy. Researchers say there are many foods that can relieve inflammation. I read a study including some of the most important foods: fatty fish, garlic, ginger, broccoli, walnuts, berries, spinach, grapes, and the use of olive oil. Our editor at The Standard Newspaper is a very big supporter of taking turmeric curcumin, in supplemental gel cap form, to help reduce joint pain and other inflammatory conditions. It works for him. It is time I buckle down and get serious. Some days I can barely walk across the parking lot at the grocery store.
Remember, there's a lot you can do to reduce the risk of developing osteoarthritis, and to improve the quality of your life when living with osteoarthritis.
When faced with a chronic illness, you may overcome it by educating yourself. Take charge by learning about treatment options, don't be a bystander in your own health. When talking to your doctor be open about your expectations, fears, and concerns.
Living with arthritis, can include mental health issues like depression and/or anxiety which are more common in people living with chronic pain. There are a number of professional counselling groups available to talk with, who can provide you with some coping mechanisms, or share your story with your family and/or church friends. Instead of focusing on what you can't do, focus on remaining active, independent, and look for the opportunity to use the abilities you do have to honour God. He may turn your remaining mobility into more-ability.
2 Corinthians 12:9 says, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness."