I believe each one of us is a unique individual. Through my life journey, I find it so amazing to know that every brain has its own experiences.
No two sets of fingerprints are the same, even the tongue has a print that is exclusively its own. If this is the case, then I always wonder why, almost all of us want to be like others? To me, our identity is a paradox because in one way we celebrate our individuality, yet in the other, we still want to fit into the subcultures of our society.
Through the many conversations, I have had over the years, many people believe that only children and teenagers are in need of acceptance, but this desire to “fit in” continues into adulthood as well.
I’m sure we have all heard of the saying “keeping up with the Jones,” as it depicts many examples of how men and women today are always trying to belong.
Speaking of trying to belong, I have found myself trying to do just this for most of my life. I have had many different jobs, and each one required me to play a different role, to maintain my image, for that specific work culture. Sometimes I felt there were things I should say, and ways I needed to act in order to “fit in”, with who I feel I am supposed to be, instead of who I actually am. Although I had many interests, I felt as though I couldn’t share them, as I feared I would have lost the respect of my coworkers. I continued to live every day, but slowly my identity was quieted, until eventually I started to forget who I was.
Perhaps you can relate to me in some way; wanting to belong so much you would be willing to compromise yourself. Make sure not to lose who you are, and who you are meant to be, because of materialism, self-image, doubts, fears, or expectations. Feel content and fulfilled without feeling pressured to fit in.
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