Life can be wonderful. Friends, family, and co-workers seem to buzz all around doing their thing, both spending time with you and others they care for, and living the life they live with zest and/or struggle, eventually they get by with a little help from their family or friends. Trust is a paradoxical thing. It is both the strongest thing in life or can crumble rapidly from the slightest precision blow.
Have you ever counted on someone; a person who’s loyalty and capability you’ve never questioned, for something you felt was needful, and they didn’t want to show up, or help. For what seemed like no good reason, they made up excuses, or even became defensive quickly, so quickly it seemed premeditated. Then the next thing you know, the time you see or talk to them next, they act like it was no big deal. What in the world was that about? Or have you had someone who was a long-trusted friend, family member, or even your spouse (Just so you know, I’m not implying mine has.), flip-flop on you. They shared information, about your relationship or one you have with someone else, with others you don’t know, like online “friends” or someone who’s judgment you have previously stated you don’t trust. Then there’s the ever so important betrayal over money, business, or social matters, leaving you feeling left high and dry, alone and wounded. What about a loved one opposing you publicly, about a previously agreed upon position, exposing a rift in a relationship, before any real discussion had been shared around their changing convictions in a private relating time? This is probably a more appropriate manner in which to do things. These things can challenge your ability to trust again, open up to connecting again, or even want to be a part of social things again.
Betrayal, which gets its meaning through Old French from a Latin word “tradere” meaning ‘hand over, deliver up’, as in ‘having your head served up on a platter, or tray’, is an all too common experience, especially in today’s increasingly pseudo connecting societies. Techno-social platforms have made it extremely easy to convince ourselves we are properly adjusted, truly connected with others, and therefore in a sense of community. Unfortunately, this often can replace the ways of satisfying the legitimate need for acceptance, addressed by honest face-to-face connection with those flesh and blood others close around.
I was involved in an earnest conversation the other day, with a person who said they were very interested in the development of the new AI Robots, as personal relationship substitutes. They expressed very clearly, they would much rather have a partnership with one of these than another human being. Their reasoning was, “It would sure be a lot less complicated.” They said there are others they have talked to who felt the same, even to the point of attempting to pass laws to marry them. I was struck with an overwhelming sense of society betraying itself and giving up, of a serious lack of comprehension of how deep real relationships go, and of the distortion of social mores.
The idea of replacement relationships can deceptively weaken the bonds of real relationships; those with actual human touch, true integration, and even the counter balance of real reprisal to stimulate responsible behaviour. This is the actual community, and it comes with the honest effort of learning to appreciate differences built into individuality. It comes with adjusting the manner in which we express ourselves and realizing other’s significance as well. In a basic sense, it means adjusting to how they smell, and you can’t do that online, it’s too clinical, too easy, in a hyphenated word “cop-out”
Maybe you’ve had the kind of discussions where you work out mutual ground rules for how your relationship will work. Looking in the eyes of that trusted person, so you can see their true convictions about the topic at hand, to truly connect, is a far greater information stream. You get real time, real world, 3D feedback. Yes, some people have these conversations to establish trust and protections for their lives together. It’s healthy; countries do it, municipalities do it, corporations do it, even social organizations do it.
Communication works, because honest connection works. It can get those involved on a mutual page and reduce assumptions and surprises.
But after a connection is no longer a priority, a person has become sufficiently self-deceived into believing they can exist in a healthy way by themselves. All psychology, society, and religious groups, in particular Christianity, have their foundations in the need we have for others, partly in order to gain the feedback for healthy development.
At this time of year, we are commemorating Passover, the time when God set the Jewish people free from cruel slavery by the oppressive Egyptian Pharaoh. We are also celebrating the act of Christ taking each of our personal sins upon himself, and then pursuing his own death on the cross, to allow God to judge that sin within him instead and to free us all from the cause of self betrayal, which is what holds us captive, and drives us to the compromise of betraying others. This inner struggle, against the effects of this pollution of our souls, can at best be delayed in our own strength, but is a continual battle. However, what God has done, is set up an opportunity, for anyone who would choose to rely upon His provision, is offer a new essence of life. If we would admit our need, and simply ask Christ to enter our hearts, each person will experience Him living there by His Spirit, and through this His nature will overcome our own inherent self willed nature.
This Friday is, Good Friday, the day acknowledging Christ’s dying on the Cross to take away our sins. Then comes Holy Saturday, normally Jewish Sabbath, which is particularly solemn, as it acknowledges the attempt of sin to persuade in the hearts of mankind that death had the final word. Praise God, however, ‘Sundays a comin;’ Resurrection Sunday, when Christ’s triumph over death, His rising again, offers each of us a chance at Eternal Life, if we will invite God, through Jesus, into our hearts to change, and then rule our nature, as the Gentlemen He is. No more inner forcing, compulsion toward self betrayal, or desire for betrayal of others. A nature to share its capacity to forgive the betrayal of others will inhabit your soul. All that remains is the practice of co-working with that nature, which will demonstrate to you the wonders of forgiveness and truth. Even after this exchange of our sin for His nature of grace, we still stumble. We are still human after all, but having God in the human heart gives us a greater capability to understand the failings of others, and the ability to get back up without being overcome by what could overcome us before. I recommend you don’t betray this opportunity to visit a local church this Resurrection weekend and even participate in the Good Friday walk, starting at Palmer Park, which is an opportunity to understand what led up to Christ’s intercession for your life.
Happy Resurrection Experience
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