Crusin Classics Car Club
We wish to thank you very much for including our cruise-ins, held on Tuesday evenings at the Emmanuel Community Church parking lot, every week in your column “Happenings”. This aids in keeping cruisers informed should they be looking for a particular themed cruise night. Your support is greatly appreciated.
2018's cruise-in season was very successful, with over 1400 vehicles participating throughout the year. Our final wrap up event included lots of prizes, complimentary coffee and “cruising” music.
Through donations from generous cruisers and spectators, Operation Scugog received over $1000 and 4 truckloads of paper goods and food products, collected at 2 special cruise-in events – one in June and the other on August 28th. Emmanuel Community Church also benefited with a cash donation at our final cruise-in.
We look forward to your continuing support, as we plan for the 2019 Cruisin' Classic Car Club Cruise-Ins! Please check out our blog at http://cruisinclassics.blogspot.ca for pictures and other information.
Yours very truly,
Bev VanKessel, Tony Laundrie,
In June 2017, I stepped into the role of President of the Board for Port Perry Hospital Foundation. The relative quiet of my first few weeks as president ended abruptly in August when the hospital suffered a devastating roof fire. There were a lot of sleepless nights that followed, as we recovered from the shock, found new temporary office space for foundation staff, said good bye to long time fund raising executive Cindy Lister, embarked on the search for her replacement, Rachel Agnoluzzi, and hoped we would be able to meet all of the financial hurdles needed to support Lakeridge Health’s plan to reopen the hospital within the year.
The only thing I knew for sure was this…..that our community and our donors were standing by, asking, “How can we help”? The outpouring of shared hope for our community hospital, from our citizens, was inspiring. The kind words and the donations that poured in were amazing and uplifting.
Your support allowed us to help with Lakeridge Health’s plans for an improved facility. Port Perry Hospital Foundation was able to commit funds towards refurbishing and upgrading, while the hospital was closed. Every single gift counted, big and small.
Today, our small community hospital is better than ever, ready to serve us all.
On behalf of everyone at Port Perry Hospital Foundation, thank you for always being there when we need you.
With sincerest thanks,
Mark Fletcher, President of the Board
Port Perry Hospital Foundation
We would like to thank everyone that has placed an order with us, for their Scugog Remembers T-shirts, hats and pins.
Scugog Remembers Committee will be hosting a variety of events to commemorate the 100th Anniversary of the end of the 1st World War.
Some Port Perry merchants have purchased T-shirts, hats and pins for their employees to wear the week leading up to November 11th, 2018, as well as for individuals wanting to show their thanks and support for all our Veterans.
Please check out our website, Scugog Remembers.ca, so you don’t miss any of the events.
You can still order T-shirts, hats and pins with the Scugog Remembers logo by contacting Ellen Greenough, at (905)985-8047 or firstname.lastname@example.org, or contact Cheryl Maclean, at (705)934-4335 or email@example.com
Ellen Greenough 1st Port Perry Scouts
Cheryl Maclean #41 Port Perry Army Cadets
Last week we took a summary look at a category of dependence called independence, and many of it's troubling tendencies, plus a few of it's properly applied possible benefits.
The second category of dependence seems, at first look, to be a healthy connection with others, but is called “co-dependence”. It is an inward or outward over-reliance on the contribution of others, or on ours toward them.
Seems good huh? Yet, for people in relationships where support has become a premium, either in the giving or the needing of, exhaustion can occur. If left unrecognized and unaddressed, a kind of over growth can develop, much like weeds taking over a neglected, once productive, garden.
In relationships like: love-stricken young adults, who believe they must take on the world together; employees, who have special skills or determination, becoming overworked; those working in social causes who, entrapped by the sense of need and value of the work they perform, become driven, altruism can be derailed and helping others replaced with a quenchless desire for a self image upgrade; crisis workers, in this world of great and vital need, can find fulfillment fleeting or next to impossible, who, after achieving a step forward see the next immediately demanded by necessity, sometimes experience adrenaline addiction setting in.
Relationships with others and circumstances can morph, where a person can lose the sense of capacity to choose and become entrenched with the demands upon them. Eventually, any life needs reciprocity, but in these scenarios some reach for a return from the very thing promoting the problem. 'I mean, you give out you should get back right?', is often the thought process.
Although this seems entirely fair, it's not often the case that it will come through the pipeline of the place or manner where we are giving. Balanced perspective would dictate, where we give out is where the lack is, and so a beneficial return from these same places or people is highly unlikely. Instead, outflow from these exaggerated areas of life are also distorted, but we often lock onto them, out of urgency, having given too much too long, in sort of a 'junk food' 'quick fix' response.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not advocating we stop responding to need, but we have to keep our wits about us in the process, so as to not be drained of the equipping for our life. If we don't, we're no good for anyone, and the 'anything-to-fill-the-hunger'-urgency operates much like an addiction, and it sets up an unhealthy cycle called “co-dependence.”
Like we said last time, imagined or actual needs effect us much the same in our minds and emotions, the reason why women, or today even men, find themselves in abusive relationships, and also can't find the desire to break away.
Let's put this in the broader description of the relationships described earlier.
Dr. Phil would ask, “How's that working for you?”
Many, bruised and beaten by the demands of others, purposes, or their own compulsive desire to be answered by the same, would share along these lines, “I love them, I'm sure they love me, they just can't express it.” or “You just don't understand, my boss is under a lot of stress.” or “ It's just a matter of time, things can't stay this way forever!” or “Risk is a part of life.”
Though some of these responses carry a piece of truth, it is distorted to fit desire, rather then held up straight. to bring clarity to real need. This is often how damage in life occurs.
Have you ever been so overwhelmed by others or circumstances your mind seemed to go numb or lock-up for a while. If in that moment you deferred to the choices of others who chose to act for you, or you chose the feeling of being indispensable yourself as their answer, to get things unstuck, these are the seeds of co-dependence. We're talking, when this happens on an increasing basis, we are beginning to short circuit normal healthy balance. Whatever the outward form, the loss of self determination is just as destructive to both parties involved. Accompanied or disguised as laziness, depression, or anxiety, because it cannot bring real satisfaction, in today's one size fits all approach, it is often medicated rather than instructed.
But, the pressure to choose for another can be very seductive. Stimulated by both parties seeking to find security in the moment, if left uninterrupted it can conform to a constant way to navigate in life. No person is capable of being the soul answer for the needs of another's life. Society is not even fully capable to be this supply as well; we can help, but God is greater.
To a person struggling with co-dependency, whether it be in: siding up with the bully in the school yard, recognizing the struggles others have, lack of rest and nutrition compromising our resilience, chemical or psychological addictions to states of mind, or dynamics in achieving, denial is the key mechanism driving it all. Hence the very frank “How's it working for you?” is a reality check question we all need to ask ourselves, very honestly.
As a Christian, truth is touted as of the utmost importance. Unfortunately, some can loose sight of the fact the Bible shows us “Truth” is more than a subject matter but actually embodied by “God”. Naturally, as the Creator of all things He is intricately involved with the healthy design of what He created.
And so, to know the “Truth” is to be connected with how to be set free. In the Bible, in John 8:31b and 8:32, Jesus said "If you continue to accept and obey my teaching, you are really my followers. You will know the truth, and the truth will make you free." Easy to Read Version.
By becoming intimately connected with what comes out of Jesus, God in human form, you will come to be intimate with the truth about yourself, and that will set or “make” you free from denial and co-dependence with what comes out of others. Forget Jack Nicholson, being dependant upon God is good.
God alone can “handle the truth” of our whole lives.
The current school sex-ed curriculum definitely needs revamping. In addition to teaching things at inappropriate age levels, it has a strong undertone of the purpose of sex as being for pleasure for anyone, that can be experienced apart from love and marriage. In fact the words “love” and “marriage” don’t even appear in the curriculum.
The curriculum for grade 7 says: “sex can be an enjoyable experience and can be an important part of a close relationship when you are older.” What does that mean? … like in grade 8? It also says: “Be clear in your own mind what you are comfortable or uncomfortable with.” Would these twelve year olds be expected to decide what they were “comfortable or uncomfortable with” regarding whether they should attend school or not, or drive the car?
The curriculum says: “engaging in oral sex, vaginal intercourse, and anal intercourse means that you can be infected with an STI.” But it doesn’t say anything about anal intercourse having a far higher risk of contracting the deadly HIV/AIDS, that is incurable and without on-going treatment can be fatal.
Abstinence is mentioned briefly but using a condom is emphasized more.
This curriculum minimizes, instead of maximizing, the dangers and possible consequences of sexual promiscuity.
It’s like teaching driving without teaching the rules of the road. You would teach children how to identify all the parts of a car, their proper names and how they work, and how to operate the car, but never teach them the rules of the road. To continue the parallel, then turn them loose on the road and say, “Whenever you’re ready, go for it!” “Whatever feels good, whatever you’re comfortable with, do it. But just make sure you have your helmet on, your seatbelt fastened, air bags in good working order, because when you run red lights, go through stop signs, drive on the wrong side of the road and go too fast these will help reduce the inevitable consequences.”
Best-selling author, Timothy Keller, in his book “The Meaning Of Marriage,” points out how, “sex affects our whole heart, our inward being, not just our body…. Sex is for whole-life self-giving…. union between two people so profound that they virtually become a new, single person….In love they donate themselves, wholly, to the other….
The Bible says don’t unite with someone physically unless you are also willing to unite with the person emotionally, personally, socially, economically, and legally….Sex is God’s appointed way for two people to reciprocally say to one another, ‘I belong completely, permanently, and exclusively to you.’ You must not use sex to say anything else.”
We wouldn’t think of teaching our kids to drive without teaching them the rules of the road and the dangers of disregarding them. Why teach sex-ed without teaching and emphasizing what is right and best, and the many serious life-altering consequences of wrong choices?
Why Canada needs to be a global leader in the protection of freshwater.
It’s a luxury to not think about water.
Most Canadians watch it flow from the faucet and go down the drain without considering its source or destination. When we do think about water, it’s only about where the nearest tap is. Many people in the world don’t have taps. Over 1.2 billion people experience critical water shortages. They think about water every day.
Rapid climate change is going to change the way Canadians think about water. And we are going to think about it a lot more.
While scientists can’t predict every future impact of climate change, there are many impacts that we are already experiencing. And most of those involve water.
It’s not my Grandma’s weather anymore. Climate change has altered how, where, and when we receive rain and snow. There is more variation in rainfall amounts, with some regions getting a lot more and some a lot less. We are also seeing more extreme rain events, with a month’s worth of rain falling in just a few hours. My kids have already experienced several one hundred-year storms.
Unfortunately, it sometimes takes a disaster to make us rethink our relationship with water, and water has some very effective ways of communicating with people. Floods, droughts and polluted water making people sick sends a strong message.
Here’s our problem. For over 200 years in Canada, we have tried to move water off the landscape as quickly as possible by straightening streams and filling floodplains. But, draining the landscape has caused profound changes to the ancient interactions between water and land. In the past, rain and snow melt would slowly infiltrate into aquifers or streams, or meander through roots, stems and leaves to return to the atmosphere. Now we push water along hard, straight lines where the benefits of interacting with soil and plants are lost.
Instead of water being cleaned, water is contaminated with too many nutrients and sediments. Instead of a gentle, steady release of water into streams, we flush it quickly through engineered waterways that rise and fall like a toilet being flushed.
We need to slow the flow. Retaining and restoring wetlands and floodplains are a critical part of our adaption to rapid climate change.
These habitats provide a two-for-one return on investment when it comes to climate change: they increase landscape resilience to extreme weather by holding flood waters and filtering pollution, and the conserved spaces help to capture and store carbon pollution from the atmosphere. These places also provide habitat for wildlife and opportunities for Canadians to connect with nature.
We are a nation rich in freshwater. Canada has approximately 25 per cent of the world’s wetlands by area, and more lakes than the rest of the world combined. But our freshwater endowment is at risk, especially in southern Canada where most Canadians live. Loss of wetland and floodplain habitats, and run-off from our cities and farms is impacting our lakes, rivers and streams. And this impacts us all.
The Nature Conservancy of Canada is helping protect wetlands, floodplains and other places important for nature and for people. We work with willing private land-owners who donate or sell their properties or place them under a long-term conservation agreement. This conservation work is supported by Canadians, businesses, foundations, various provincial governments and the Natural Areas Conservation Program of Environment and Climate Change Canada.
Water is sending us a message. A healthy natural environment is a key part of the infrastructure for our cities and communities. Canada has an opportunity to lead the world in showing how nature conservation supports clean water, climate change adaptation, and our well-being. Just as we need to invest in pipes and pumps as a part of our water system, we also need to invest in healthy wetlands, rivers and watersheds to ensure a future of clean and abundant freshwater.
If we think about water a little more today, maybe future generations will need to think about it a little less.
(Dan Kraus is senior conservation biologist with the Nature Conservancy of Canada (NCC). The private land conservation charity has helped protect over 184,000 acres in Ontario since 1962).
National Media Relations Director
Nature Conservancy of Canada
It's a thought that can stir stressful feelings and flight in some, compulsive neediness in the minds of others, and growing cooperation, security, and peace of mind, in still others.
Where does the difference in perspective come from? Let's examine it a bit. There are three basic personal responses when considering dependence, they is independence, co-dependence and inter-dependence.
We will be taking a basic look at all three in consecutive articles over the next three issues.
The first response is erroneously labeled “independance”. It is an inward and so often outward avoidance of reliance on others. The fight for this can show itself as resistant behaviour towards the opinions of others, rigid boundaries, lack of cooperation, attempts at dominance of others like bullying, and at it's worst, emotional bursts of anger. Inwardly it can be detected by, racing thoughts about the unreliability of others, or even paranoia over the intentions of others, polluting ongoing relationships.
Usually, this is a result of past experiences, in which a person is emotionally wounded by others, and consequently has chosen separation as their go to defense mechanism in life. Because this has seemed to work in the temporary, some begin to adopt this as a method of permanent protection, which, like a burst of adrenaline, is only healthy in a temporary measure. In the long term they both brake down the healthy structure of things.
Another name for continuous independence is withdrawal. Withdrawn people can convince themselves, living ‘independent’ of what others offer in life, is a strength. When many have become afraid, to open up again to the wonderful blessings another's existence can be in their own life. At its root, withdrawal is a kind of running away, of not continuing to engage life and learn social skills to develop as a well rounded person. Sometimes instead of withdrawal, people like this can over compensate and become adrenaline junkies, seeking challenging activities where others may not follow, as their justification for their distance or lack of availability.
Of course as only periodic occurrences, some of these behaviours can have their roots in life’s circumstances and more immediate reasons. But when the words “I can do it on my own!” come out with venom, and when the words “Can I give you a hand?” become a comment on your ability or personhood, it may be time to look at what you think healthy life is.
The idea of independence is really an illusion, a denial that we all live as social beings, yet we interact with others continually. It is impossible to find a way to live without others, or at least their influences. Consider a basic trip to the grocery store or coffee shop. Without others there would be no product for us to purchase, to then take home in a car manufactured by others, and cook in an oven or microwave produced by others as well. We can shut ourselves in and watch T.V. shows broadcast by others or surf the net all day, through an internet provider operated by others. So it's easy to see, with a simple look, that real independence is an illusion, and is really an exercise of denial and self absorption.
There are of course, lesser measures of ‘independence’ that do provide opportunity for individual development that are just as important to a balanced life, but these are not really independence as much as they are personal privacy and healthy boundaries. Sometimes taking a walk is the healthiest thing a person can do.
For a little balance, I'm not saying the healthy ability to navigate life is an indication of compulsive independence. And there are those who enjoy more private disciplines, like art, writing, study, and outdoor activities like nature photography or gardening. Some interests can only be shared with a small group of friends or even appreciated by just one or two others at rare times. These things lend themselves to solitude and privacy, but not loneliness. The question to ask is, if one is pursuing these things as a means to avoid others continually, or because these pursuits impart fulfillment that lasts beyond the moment, equipping you to be a healthier member in life.
Photos of Lake Scugog wanted
The Scugog Lake Stewards are soliciting high resolution photos of Lake Scugog. Whether you are an expert photographer or not, we have several opportunities to show your work.
One of those opportunities will be as part of a 2019 calendar, with all sales dollars going to support our projects for the benefit of Lake Scugog; one of which is the Lake Scugog Enhancement Project.
We would like photos of all areas of the lake, at all times of day, and at all seasons of the year. Dynamic photos of lake recreation would also be excellent. Photos that include images of recognizable people must have signed waivers for the use of their images.
Entries should be sent to firstname.lastname@example.org subject line 'Lake photos', before October 12th. Two photos per person. All photos to be used in the calendar will be judged by a panel on October 15th, 2018. You will be notified and given credit if your photo will be used. Please let us know if we may not use your photos elsewhere in pamphlets, or on our Scugog Lake Stewards' website and Facebook page.
We sincerely look forward to seeing your shots of our beautiful lake.
President, Scugog Lake Stewards Inc.
WE DID IT!
We're thrilled to announce that together we raised $1,256,420 to help give Canadians a new leash on life!
We are incredibly thankful to our title sponsor Pet Valu, and supporting sponsors VIA Rail Canada, Rayment & Collins and Cadillac Fairview. Thanks to our sponsors, 100 per cent of the funds raised will go directly to the Foundation.
We're also very grateful to our foster families, Walk organizers, walkers and volunteers who participated in the Pet Valu Walk for Dog Guides.
Thanks to the success of the Walk, the Lions Foundation of Canada can continue to assist Canadians with a medical or physical disability by providing highly trained Dog Guides at no cost.
A big congratulations goes out to this year's prize winners:
Linda Kittmer, winner of the grand prize of a $1,000 Via Rail Credit voucher and Samsung tablet.
John Bell, winner of an iconic Hudson's Bay blanket.
Shelly Brown, winner of a six month membership to GoodLife Fitness.
We can't wait until next year's Walk!
Pet Valu Walk for Dog Guides
As a former publisher of a small community newspaper in Port Perry, I found it rather ironic to read Heather Malick's column in the Toronto Star, on August 27th, 2018, bemoaning the subject of free journalism.
It was Ms Malick's employers, Torstar and Metroland Publishing who were at the forefront of the weakening of print media. Metroland began producing free publications throughout the GTA, almost half century ago, a move that paved the way for the situation faced by print media today.
Free mass-distributed newspapers started in urban areas, and were later injected into rural communities. Their dominance forced many small subscription based newspapers to sell their community publications to this new powerful competitor, or go into receivership.
Ms. Malick says "the expectation of free journalism is wrecking a business being crunched and crushed by the disappearance of paid advertising," and she is absolutely right.
By the mid-1990s free newspapers began to flood the market. Advertisers and subscribers began to dwindle and small local newspapers, were forced to abandon their subscribers and provide costly free blanket distribution.
Today, people expect free news, and the newspapers that have been able to survive are struggling.
Ms. Malick suggests that, "free online journalism is something that snuck up on all of us". This is exactly how it felt when "free distribution newspapers snuck up on small independent newspaper owners".
They say that history repeats itself. It appears the Toronto Star and many other large publications are "reaping what they sowed".
Port Perry, Ontario