“Think you can make it to ten reps?” I ask Bill.
“I don’t know. I feel pretty lousy. I’d really just like to stop.” He responds.
I put one arm around his shoulder.
“You always do a great job so when you’re ready, give it a try.”
“Okay, I’m ready.” He tells me. “One, two, three, four…” Bill counts. He often makes it to ten repetitions and beyond.
I’ve been working with him for years and know his responses all too well. What’s my point here? Bill tells me he feels lousy every time. When he tells me that, I change the dynamic of the conversation. Not only can he do it, Bill often exceeds what he thinks he can do.
A lot of the negative things you tell yourself probably aren’t true. When you keep saying, “I feel lousy” then you’re likely to feel that way. Saying, “I can’t do that” is not a true statement. The way you talk to yourself can determine the overall outcome.
When you’re stuck in a cycle of, “I can’t” then odds are “You won’t.” I meet those people all the time. Most people don’t attempt things, for fear they will be bad at it. Change the dynamic. Change “I can’t” to “I’ll try.” You don’t have to do anything well in order to do it. The simple act of trying means you are capable. You will improve.
What you tell yourself about yourself is often the biggest hurdle.
Remember when you were little? If you never got back on your bike after falling off, how would you ever learn to ride it? With that same determination and willingness to try, you can really master just about anything. Not only that, you may exceed every expectation. It really all starts with what you have in mind.
If you’re wondering if you can do it too,
the answer is yes! It’s never too late to start.